Author: Gary Petty

Gary Petty is a 1978 graduate of Ambassador College with a BS in mass communications. He worked for six years in radio in Pennsylvania and Texas. He was ordained a minister in 1984 and has served congregations in Longview and Houston Texas; Rockford, Illinois; Janesville and Beloit, Wisconsin; and San Antonio, Austin and Waco, Texas. He presently pastors United Church of God congregations in Nashville, Murfreesboro and Jackson, Tennessee.
22 Feb 2023

Solving Our Conflict with God

It is a false concept to believe that God accepts us just the way we are and that we can then stay just the way we are. This belief doesn’t deal with the reality that we are by nature the children of wrath and the enemies of our Creator. To deal with the dysfunctional conflict […]

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07 Dec 2022

A Change of Nature

There was a time in my life when I thought that dealing with conflict was simply a matter of applying some conflict management techniques and magically problems between human beings are solved. The real issues are much more complex. One of the principles I’ve learned (but sometimes fail to do) seems counter-intuitive, but before we […]

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19 May 2022

Causes of Dysfunctional Conflict: The Problem of Pride

Ben was a Connecticut merchant in the American colonial period. As his business fortunes rose, so did his resentment of British taxation. At the outset of the American Revolution, Ben was elected captain of the local militia. He organized them into an effective fighting force and presented a bold plan for seizing the British forts […]

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15 Feb 2022

Causes of Dysfunctional Conflict: The Need for Control

The natural human reaction to conflict is fight-or-flight. These are normal reactions when we face physical threats, but we also respond with fight-or-flight behavior when confronted with non-physical conflict. We either fight to protect our perceived rights, our self-image, or our emotional security; or we run away so that we can avoid the uncomfortable work […]

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27 Jul 2021
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Dysfunctional Conflict: the Expectation of Others to Meet our Needs

This is the second blog in a series reviewing the five major core causes of dysfunctional conflict discussed in The Mercy Effect. In the last blog, we looked at one of the major causes of conflict which is our need to be emotionally healed. A second cause is based in our expectations to have others […]

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