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19 May 2022

Causes of Dysfunctional Conflict: The Problem of Pride

Ben was a Connecticut merchant in the American colonial period. As his business fortunes rose, so did his resentment of British taxation. At the outset of the American Revolution, Ben was elected captain of the local militia. He organized them into an effective fighting force and presented a bold plan for seizing the British forts […]

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14 Mar 2022

The Bible as Story: A Better Way to Truth

Why truth as story is a better way to reach today’s world. And what this has to do with the Church of God. Movie scenes can often get to the heart of a point that would otherwise take a blog or sermon to explain. This was the case when I watched the emotional, award-winning movie […]

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15 Feb 2022

Causes of Dysfunctional Conflict: The Need for Control

The natural human reaction to conflict is fight-or-flight. These are normal reactions when we face physical threats, but we also respond with fight-or-flight behavior when confronted with non-physical conflict. We either fight to protect our perceived rights, our self-image, or our emotional security; or we run away so that we can avoid the uncomfortable work […]

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05 Jan 2022

Thinking Well, Part 3: What Truth Are You Afraid Of?

The truth is a stubborn thing. It is true whether we believe it or not. It resists consensus; it is not impressed or intimidated by office, rank, or power; it is impervious to feelings. Agreement with others may comfort us, but it has no impact on what is true. It doesn’t matter how strongly we […]

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03 Nov 2021

Disagreement in Love: Navigating Disagreements with Brethren

One day a few months back, I got a call from friend while I was out running errands. This particular friend doesn’t call often and normally texts, so I knew something was up. As we spoke for a few moments, things seem okay – light chit-chat – but I could tell in their voice that […]

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07 Oct 2021

The Campaign Against Truth – Part 5: Staying Close to God

Justice is turned back, And righteousness stands afar off; For truth is fallen in the street, And equity cannot enter. So truth fails, And he who departs from evil makes himself a prey. Then the LORD saw it, and it displeased Him That there was no justice. He saw that there was no man, And wondered that […]

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27 Jul 2021
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Dysfunctional Conflict: the Expectation of Others to Meet our Needs

This is the second blog in a series reviewing the five major core causes of dysfunctional conflict discussed in The Mercy Effect. In the last blog, we looked at one of the major causes of conflict which is our need to be emotionally healed. A second cause is based in our expectations to have others […]

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09 Jun 2021

The Campaign Against Truth – Part 4: Understand Yourself

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, But fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 1:7 Most of us have read this scripture many times. Many of us may have even memorized it. But typically, we stop after the first part of the verse, neglecting to finish it. Yet the end of this […]

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11 Mar 2021

The Campaign Against Truth – Part 3: Knowing the Influences

For Satan himself transforms himself into an angel of light. Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also transform themselves into ministers of righteousness, whose end will be according to their works.  2 Corinthians 11:14-15   Influence and deception are things not always easily seen or detected. In many cases, people who seem to […]

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